trusting too much

tort [tɔʀ]

   a. ( = action, attitude blâmable) fault

• il a un tort, c'est de trop parler his one fault is that he talks too much

• il a le tort d'être trop jeune the only trouble with him is that he's too young

• il a eu le tort d'être impoli avec le patron he made the mistake of being rude to the boss

• ils ont tous les torts de leur côté the fault is entirely on their side

• les torts sont du côté du mari the fault lies with the husband

• être en tort to be in the wrong

• avoir des torts envers qn to have wronged sb

• il n'a aucun tort he's not at fault

• il a reconnu ses torts he acknowledged that he had done something wrong

• vous avez refusé ? c'est un tort did you refuse? - you shouldn't have

   b. ( = dommage, préjudice) wrong

• redresser un tort to right a wrong

• faire or causer du tort à qn to harm sb

• ça ne fait de tort à personne it doesn't harm anybody

• il s'est fait du tort he has harmed himself

   c. (locutions)

► dans son tort

• être dans son tort to be in the wrong

• se mettre dans son tort to put o.s. in the wrong

• il venait de ma droite, j'étais dans mon tort (en voiture) he was coming from the right, I was at fault► avoir tort to be wrong

• il a tort de se mettre en colère he's wrong to get angry

• il n'a pas tout à fait tort de dire que... he's not altogether wrong in saying that...

• tu aurais bien tort de ne pas le faire ! you'd be crazy not to do it!► donner tort à qn ( = blâmer) to lay the blame on sb ; ( = ne pas être d'accord avec) to disagree with sb

• les événements lui ont donné tort events proved him wrong► à tort [soupçonner, accuser] wrongly

► à tort ou à raison rightly or wrongly

► à tort et à travers

• dépenser à tort et à travers to spend money like water

• il parle à tort et à travers he talks a lot of rubbish (inf)

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nom masculin

1) ( défaut de raison)

2) ( faute) fault

3) ( erreur) mistake

4) ( préjudice) wrong

à tort locution adverbiale [accuser] wrongly

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1. nm

1) (= défaut)

2) (= préjudice)

2. torts nmpl

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tort

A nm

1 ( défaut de raison) avoir tort to be wrong (de faire to do); il a eu tort de les licencier he was wrong to fire ou dismiss them; on aurait tort de croire que c'est facile it would be wrong ou a mistake to think it's easy; il n'a pas tout à fait tort de dire ça he's not entirely wrong in saying that; tu n'as pas tort de les laisser tomber! I don't blame you for dropping them!; j'aurais bien tort de m'inquiéter ! it would be silly of me to worry!; être en tort, être dans son tort to be in the wrong; se mettre/mettre qn en tort to put oneself/sb in the wrong; donner tort à qn [arbitre, juge] to blame sb; [faits, réalité] to prove sb wrong; ⇒ absent;

2 ( faute) fault; les torts sont partagés there are faults on both sides; tous les torts sont de leur côté it's all their fault, they're entirely to blame; prendre tous les torts à son compte to take all the blame ou all responsibility; reconnaître ses torts to acknowledge that one has done wrong; avoir des torts envers qn to have wronged sb; le jugement a été prononcé à leurs torts Jur the case went against them; divorce prononcé aux torts du mari Jur divorce granted against the husband;

3 ( erreur) mistake; c'est un tort de s'imaginer que… it's a mistake to think that…; j'ai eu le tort de le croire I made the mistake of believing him; c'est le grand tort que tu as eu that's where you went wrong, that was your big mistake; mon tort, c'est d'être trop impulsif my trouble is that I am too impulsive;

4 ( préjudice) wrong; demander réparation d'un tort to demand compensation for a wrong; faire du or porter tort à qn/qch to harm sb/sth; ça ne fait de tort à personne it doesn't do anybody any harm, it doesn't hurt anybody.

B à tort loc adv [accuser] wrongly; à tort ou à raison rightly or wrongly; à tort et à travers [dépenser] wildly; parler à tort et à travers to talk a lot of nonsense.

[tɔr] nom masculin

1. (sans article)

avoir tort [se tromper] to be wrong

donner tort à quelqu'un [désapprouver] to disagree with somebody

2. [défaut, travers] fault, shortcoming

3. [dommage] wrong

a. [personne] to harm a cause

b. [initiative] to be detrimental to a cause

4. [part de responsabilité] fault

a. [généralement] to be entirely to blame

b. [dans un accident] to be fully responsible

c. [dans un divorce] to be the guilty party

j'ai des torts envers eux I have done them wrong

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à tort locution adverbiale

1. [faussement] wrongly, mistakenly

2. [injustement] wrongly

à tort ou à raison locution adverbiale

à tort et à travers locution adverbiale

elle dépense son argent à tort et à travers money burns a hole in her pocket, she spends money like water

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dans mon tort locution adverbiale,

dans son tort etc. locution adverbiale

mettre quelqu'un dans son tort to make somebody appear to be in the wrong

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en tort locution adverbiale

I'm sorry, but you're wrong. Je regrette, mais vous avez tort

You've got it all wrong. Vous vous trompez complètement

You're completely missing the point. Vous n'y êtes pas du tout

With all due respect, I think you're mistaken. Si je peux me permettre, je pense que vous vous trompez

That can't be right, surely. Ça ne peut pas être ça, si?

Actually, that's not strictly true. En fait, ce n'est pas tout à fait exact

I think you'll find it's French, not Spanish. Je pense que c'est du français, et pas de l'espagnol

No, that's not what I meant at all. Non, ce n'est pas du tout ce que je voulais dire

That's nonsense ou rubbish familier! N'importe quoi!

• First try and then trust - Доверяй, да проверяй (Д), Сперва проверь, потом поверь (C)

• If you trust before you try, you may repent before you die - Доверяй, да проверяй (Д), Сперва проверь, потом поверь (C)

• Put your trust in God, but keep your powder dry - На Бога надейся, а сам не плошай (H)

• Sudden trust brings sudden repentance - Кто легко верит, тот легко и погибает (K)

• Test before trusting - Доверяй, да проверяй (Д), Сперва проверь, потом поверь (C)

• Trust, but not too much - Доверяй, да проверяй (Д), Сперва проверь, потом поверь (C)

• Trust is the mother of deceit - Кто легко верит, тот легко и погибает (K)

• Try before you trust - Доверяй, да проверяй (Д), Сперва проверь, потом поверь (C)

Cf: First try and then trust (Br.). If you trust before you try, you may repent before you die (Br.). Test before trusting (Am.). Trust, but not too much (Br.). Try before you trust (Am., Br.)

Cf: First try and then trust (Am., Br.). If you trust before you try, you may repent before you die (Am.). Test before trusting (Am.). Trust, but not too much (Br.). Try before you trust (Am., Br.)

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in compds. fully, quite, amply.

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in COMPDS, fully, quite, enough; it may be used with almost any adjective or adverb, e. g. full-afla, adj. fully able to, Gþl. 265, 371. full-afli, a, m. a full mighty man, Lex. Poët. full-bakaðr, part. full-baked, Orkn. 112, Fas. i. 85. full-boðit, part. n. good enough for, fully a match for, Bjarn. 8. full-borða, adj. a ‘full-boarded’ ship, with bulwarks of full height, Fms. ii. 218. full-býli, n. full provisions for a house, Bs. ii. 145. full-djarfliga, adv. (-ligr, adj.), with full courage, Fms. viii. 138. full-drengiligr, adj. (-liga, adv.), full bold, Eg. 29, Lex. Poët. full-drukkinn, part. quite drunk, Edda, Fms. i. 291, Ó. H. 72. full-dýrr, adj. full dear, N. G. L. i. 37. full-elda, adj. full hot, Fas. ii. 361. full-eltr, part. pursued enough, Ísl. ii. 361. full-féa, adj. = fullfjáðr. full-fengi, n. a sufficient haul, Gullþ. 9, Bs. ii. 42. full-fengiligr, adj. quite good, Stj. 201. full-ferma, d, to load full, Ísl. ii. 77. full-fimr, adj. quite alert, Fas. iii. 485. full-fjáðr, part. full monied, Gþl. 514. full-frægt, n. adj. famous enough, Fs. 17. full-fúss, adj. quite ready, Fms. x. 402, Grett. 159. full-færa, ð, to prove fully, Stat. 296. full-gamall, adj. full old, Fas. i. 376, Orkn. 112. full-gildi, n. a full prize, Thom. 18. full-glaðr, adj. full glad, Fms. iii. 52. full-goldit, part. fully paid, Þorst. St. 54. full-góðr, adj. good enough, Fms. i. 289, vii. 272, Ó. H. 115, Sks. 219. full-göra, ð, to fulfil, complete, perform, Stj. 391, Hkr. ii. 396, Fms. i. 189, Fs. 42, Bjarn. 25: reflex., K. Á. 108, Str. 2. full-görð, performance, D. N. full-görla (full-görva, Ls. 30), adv. full clearly, Stj. 608, Hom. 159, Fms. i. 215. full-görliga, adv. fully, Str. 19. full-görr, part. fully done, Bárð. 165, Stj. 166 ( ripe): metaph. full, perfect, f. at afli, Fms. vi. 30. full-hefnt, part. fully avenged, Fas. ii. 410, Al. 34. full-heilagr, adj. full holy, Hom. 156. full-hugðr, part. full-bold, dauntless, El. 6; cp. Gh. 15, where full-hugða seems to be a verb pret. and to mean to love. full-hugi, a, m. a full gallant man, a hero without fear or blame, Eg. 505, Fms. ii. 120, vii. 150, viii. 158, Rd. 223, Ísl. ii. 360. full-indi, n. abundance, Fas. ii. 502. full-ílla, adv. (full-íllr, adj.), full ill, badly enough, Fas. i. 222, Am. 83. full-kaupa, adj. bought full dearly, Ó. H. 114. full-kátr, adj. gleeful, Fms. viii. 101. full-keyptr, part. bought full dearly, Nj. 75, Þórð. 65. full-koma, mod. full-komna, að, to fulfil, complete, Stj. 51, Bs. i. 694, K. Á. 22. full-kominn, part. perfect; f. at aldri, afli, etc., full-grown, Fms. vii. 199, xi. 182, Nj. 38, Eg. 146, 256; f. vin, 28, 64; f. ( ready) at göra e-t, Hkr. i. 330: freq. in mod. usage, perfect, N. T. full-komleikr (- leiki), m. perfectibility, Barl. fullkom-liga, adv. (-ligr, adj.), perfectly, Barl. full-kosta, adj. full-matched (of a wedding), Nj. 16, Fms. iii. 108, Fs. 31. full-kvæni, adj. well married, Skv. 1. 34. full-langt, n. adj. full long. full-launaðr, part. fully rewarded, Grett. 123. full-leiksa, adj. having a hard game ( hard job), Bjarn. 66. full-lengi, adv. full long, Fms. vi. 18, Sturl. i. 149. full-liða, adj. having men ( troops) enough, Ísl. ii. 347: quite able, Gþl. 265, v. l. full-liga, adv. fully, Fms. v. 226, ix. 257, Greg. 58. full-malit, part. having ground enough, Gs. 16. full-mikill, adj. full great, Fs. 16. full-mæli, n. a final, full agreement, Gþl. 211, v. l. full-mælt, part. spoken enough ( too much), Hkr. i. 232. full-mætr, adj. ‘full-meet,’ valid, Dipl. ii. 2. full-numi, full-numa (full-nomsi, Barl. 73), adj.; f. í e-u, or f. e-s, having learnt a thing fully, an adept in a thing, Bárð. 181, Fas. ii. 241, Sturl. iii. 173, Karl. 385. full-nægja, ð, to suffice, Fb. ii. 324; mod. Germ. genug-thun = to alone for. full-nægja, u, f. [Germ. genug-thuung], atonement. full-ofinn, part. full-woven, finished, El. 27. full-orðinn, part. full-grown, of age, Grett. 87 A. full-ráða, adj. fully resolved, Fms. viii. 422. full-reyndr, part. fully tried, Rd. 194, Fms. vii. 170. full-rétti, n. a law term, a gross insult for which full atonement is due, chiefly in the law of personal offence: phrases, mæla fullrétti við mann, of an affront in words, Grág. i. 156, ii. 144; göra fullrétti við e-n, to commit f. against one, i. 157; opp. to hálfrétti, a half, slight offence: fullrétti was liable to the lesser outlawry, Grág. l. c. fullréttis-orð, n. a verbal affront, defined as a gross insult in N. G. L. i. 70, but in a lighter sense in Grág. ii. 144, cp. Gþl. 195. fullréttis-skaði, a, m. scathe resulting from f., Gþl. 520, Jb. 411. fullréttis-verk, n. a deed of f., Gþl. 178. full-ríkr, adj. full rich, Fms. v. 273, viii. 361, Fas. iii. 552. full-roskinn, adj. full-grown, Magn. 448, Grett. 87. full-rýninn, adj. fully wise, Am. 11. full-ræði, n. full efficiency, Valla L. 202: full match = fullkosta, Fms. i. 3; fullræði fjár, efficient means, Ó. H. 134, cp. Fb. ii. 278: fullræða-samr, adj. efficient, active, Bs. i. 76. full-rætt, part. enough spoken of, Gh. 45. full-röskr, adj. in full strength, Vígl. 26, Grett. 107 A, 126. full-sekta, að, to make one a full outlaw, Ísl. ii. 166. full-skipat, part. n. fully engaged, taken up, Fas. iii. 542. full-skipta, t, to share out fully, Fms. xi. 442. full-skjótt, n. adj. full swiftly, Fms. viii. 210. full-snúit, part. n. fully, quite turned, Fms. viii. 222. full-sofit, sup. having slept enough, Dropl. 30. full-spakr, adj. full wise, Gs. 8; a pr. name, Landn. full-staðit, part. n. having stood full long, Gs. 23. full-steiktr, part. fully roasted, Fs. 24. full-strangr, adj. full strong, Mkv. full-svefta (full-sæfti, v. l.), adj. having slept enough, Sks. 496, Finnb. 346. full-sæfðr, part. quite dead, put to rest, Al. 41. full-sæla, u, f. wealth, bliss; f. fjár, great wealth, Fms. vii. 74, xi. 422, Fas. iii. 100, Band. 25; eilíf f., eternal bliss, 655 xiii. A. 2. full-sæll, adj. blissful, Fms. viii. 251, Band. 7. full-sæmdr, part. fully honoured, Fas. iii. 289. full-sæmiliga, adv. (-ligr, adj.), with full honour, Fas. iii. 124. full-sætti, n. full agreement, full settlement, Grág. ii. 183. full-tekinn, part.; f. karl, a full champion (ironic.), Grett. 208 A. new Ed. (slang). full-tíða ( full-tíði), adj. full-grown, of full age, Eg. 185, Js. 63, 73, Grág. ii. 112, Landn. 44 (v. l.), Gþl. 307, 434, K. Á. 58, Vígl. 18, Ísl. ii. 336: gen. pl. fulltíðra, Grág. ii. 113. full-trúi, a, m. a trustee, one in whom one puts full confidence, also a patron, Fms. iii. 100, xi. 134, Rd. 248, in all these passages used of a heathen god; frændi ok f., Bs. i. 117: vinr ok f., Fms. v. 20:—in mod. usage, a representative, e. g. in parliament, a trustee, commissary, or the like. full-tryggvi, f. full trust, Grett. 97 new Ed. full-týja, ð, to help, = fulltingja, Fm. 6. full-vandliga, adv. (-ligr, adj.), with full care, Fas. iii. 237. full-váxinn, part. full-grown, 655 xxx. 5, Al. 18, Stj. 255, Sks. 35. full-vaxta, adj. = fullvaxinn, Nj. 259 (v. l.), Sks. 35 ( increased). full-veðja, adj. one who is a full bail or security, H. E. i. 529, N. G. L. i. 215; in mod. usage, one who is fully able to act for oneself. full-vegit, part. n. having slain enough, Am. 50. full-vel, adv. full well, Skálda 161, Fms. viii. 162, Fas. i. 104. full-velgdr, part. quite warm, fully cooked, Fas. iii. 389. full-virði, n. a full prize, Grág. ii. 216. full-víss, adj. full wise, quite certain, Hom. 160. full-þroskaðr, part. full-grown, full strong, Fær. 97, Valla L. 196. full-þurr, adj. full dry, Eb. 260, Grett. 109. full-öruggr, adj. fully trusting.

loin [lwɛ̃]

   a. (en distance) far

• est-ce loin ? is it far?

• c'est assez loin d'ici it's quite a long way from here

• plus loin further

• il est loin derrière he's a long way behind

   b. (dans le temps) le temps est loin où cette banlieue était un village it's a long time since this suburb was a village

• c'est loin tout cela ! (passé) that was a long time ago! ; (futur) that's a long way off!

• Noël est encore loin Christmas is still a long way off

• voir loin (figurative) to be farsighted

• ne pas voir plus loin que le bout de son nez to see no further than the end of one's nose

• d'aussi loin que je me rappelle for as long as I can remember

• au loin in the distance

• d'ici à l'accuser de vol il n'y a pas loin it's practically an accusation of theft

   c. (locutions)

► aller loin to go a long way

• il est doué, il ira loin he's very gifted, he'll go far

• tu vas trop loin ! you're going too far!

• on ne va pas loin avec 100 € 100 euros doesn't go very far► de loin (dans l'espace) from a distance

• de très loin from a great distance

• il voit mal de loin he can't see distant objects clearly

• il est de (très) loin le meilleur (pour insister) he is by far the best

• c'est celui que je préfère, et de loin it's by far the one I prefer► loin de (en distance) far from ; (dans le temps) a long way off from

• loin de là (lieu) far from there ; (figurative) far from it

• non loin de là not far from there

• on est encore loin d'un accord we're still a long way from reaching an agreement

• on est loin du compte we're far short of the target

• être très loin du sujet to be way off the subject

• il ne doit pas y avoir loin de 5 km it can't be much less than 5km

• il n'est pas loin de 10 heures it's getting on for 10 o'clock

• il leur doit pas loin de 1 000 € he owes them not far off 1,000 euros

• il n'y a pas loin de cinq ans qu'ils sont partis it's not far off five years since they left(PROV) loin des yeux, loin du cœur(PROV) out of sight, out of mind

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1) ( dans l'espace) a long way, far (away)

2) ( dans le temps)

3) fig

loin de locution prépositive

1) ( dans l'espace) far from

2) ( dans le temps) far from

3) fig far from, a long way from

de loin locution adverbiale

1) ( d'un endroit éloigné) from a distance, from afar littér

2) fig from a distance

au loin locution adverbiale

de loin en loin locution adverbiale

1) ( séparé dans l'espace)

2) ( de temps en temps) every now and then

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1. adv

1) (dans l'espace) far

2) (dans le temps) (futur) a long way off, (passé) a long time ago

3) (autres locutions)

2. nm

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loin

A adv

1 ( dans l'espace) a long way, far littér; c'est loin it's a long way; c'est très loin it's a very long way; c'est assez loin it's quite a long way; c'est trop loin it's too far; ils doivent être déjà loin maintenant they must be a long way ou far away by now; elle ne peut pas être bien loin she can't be too far away ou off; est-ce loin? is it far (away)?; ce n'est pas très loin it's not very far (away); il habite plus loin he lives further ou farther away; ils sont loin derrière they're far behind ou a long way behind; aussi or si or du plus loin que l'on regarde, on ne voit que des champs de lavande however far you look, you can see nothing but lavender fields; les vignes s'étendaient aussi loin que l'on pouvait voir the vineyards stretched as far as you ou the eye could see; du plus loin qu'il m'aperçut, il se mit à agiter les bras as soon as he saw me, he began to wave; voir plus loin ( dans un texte) see below; ⇒ lèvre, monture, nez;

2 ( dans le temps) tout cela est bien loin that was all a long time ago; comme c'est loin! what a long time ago that was!; aussi or du plus loin que l'on recherche, on n'arrive pas à trouver d'où vient l'erreur however far back we go, we can't find where the mistake originated; aussi loin que je me souvienne as far back ou as long as I can remember; d'aussi or du plus loin que me me souvienne for as long as I can remember; les vacances sont déjà loin the vacation is long past now, it's a long time since the vacation now ; un événement qui remonte loin dans le passé an event which dates back a long way; cela remonte à loin it's a long time ago; c'est encore loin (dans l'avenir) it's still a long way off (in the future); l'été n'est plus très loin maintenant summer isn't far off now; le temps n'est pas si loin où… it's not so long since…; il est bien loin le temps où… it's a long time since…; plus loin dans le roman/film at a later point in the novel/film;

3 fig il y a loin d'une idée à sa réalisation there's a wide gap between an idea and its fulfilment^GB; de là à dire qu'il est incompétent, il y a loin there's a big difference between that and saying he's incompetent; de là à dire qu'il est incompétent, il n'y a pas loin that comes close to saying he's incompetent; tu sembles si loin ( distant) you seem so distant; ( absorbé) you seem miles away; il n'est pas bête, loin s'en faut! he's not stupid, far from it!; cela peut aller très loin it can go very far; ça va beaucoup plus loin it goes much further; il est allé trop loin he went too far; ce livre/film ne va pas loin this book/film GB ou movie US is a bit shallow; la décentralisation n'est pas allée très loin decentralization didn't get very far; votre fille est brillante, elle ira loin your daughter is brilliant, she'll go far; avec 500 euros par mois, on ne va pas aller loin we won't get very far on 500 euros a month; ils veulent aller plus loin dans leur coopération they want to extend their cooperation; il ne peut pas aller plus loin dans son soutien he can't increase his support.

B loin de loc prép

1 ( dans l'espace) far from; est-ce encore loin d'ici? is it much further ou farther from here?; non loin de not far from;

2 ( dans le temps) far from; cette époque n'est pas si loin de nous we're not so far from that time; on est encore loin d'avoir fini we're still far from finished, we're still a long way off finishing; nous sommes encore loin de la fin des examens the end of the exams is still a long way off; il n'est pas loin de 11 heures it's not far off 11 o'clock; cela ne fait pas loin de quatre ans que je suis ici I've been here for almost four years now;

3 fig far from, a long way from; je me sens loin de tout cela I feel detached from all that; c'est très loin de ce que j'attendais it's not anywhere near what I expected; elle n'est pas arrogante, loin de là! she's not arrogant, far from it!; loin de moi l'idée de vous offenser far be it from me to offend you; loin de moi cette idée! nothing could be further from my mind!; bien loin de ces discours de paix far removed from these peace talks; avec l'imprimante, ça fait pas loin de 2 500 euros if you include the printer, you're talking about 2,500 euros or thereabouts.

C de loin loc adv

1 ( d'un endroit éloigné) from a distance, from afar littér; je l'ai vu arriver de loin I saw him coming from a distance; je ne vois pas très bien de loin I can't see very well at a distance;

2 fig from a distance; vu de loin, cela n'a pas l'air très dangereux seen from a distance, it doesn't seem very dangerous; il voit les choses de loin he sees things from a distance; c'est de loin ton meilleur roman it's by far your best novel; il est de loin le premier acheteur de films français he's far and away ou by far the main buyer of French films; leur férocité a dépassé de loin celle de… their ferocity far surpassed that of…

D au loin loc adv ( dans le lointain) in the distance; tout au loin far away in the distance.

E de loin en loin loc adv

1 ( séparé dans l'espace) on pouvait voir des maisons de loin en loin you could see houses scattered here and there; les arbres étaient plantés de loin en loin the trees were planted at wide intervals;

2 ( de temps en temps) every now and again, every now and then.

loin des yeux, loin du cœur Prov out of sight, out of mind Prov.

[lwɛ̃] adverbe

1. [dans l'espace] far (away)

2. [dans le temps] far (away)

a. [dans le passé] that was a long time ago!, that seems a long way off now!

b. [dans le futur] that's a long way off!

3. (figuré) far

4. (Suisse) [absent]

il est loin he's not here

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au loin locution adverbiale

on voyait, au loin, une rangée de peupliers a row of poplars could be seen in the far distance ou far off in the distance

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d'aussi loin que locution conjonctive

d'aussi loin que je me souvienne as far back as I can remember

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de loin locution adverbiale

1. [depuis une grande distance] from a long way, from a distance

2. [assez peu]

3. [de beaucoup] far and away, by far

de loin en loin locution adverbiale

1. [dans l'espace] at intervals, here and there

2. [dans le temps] from time to time, every now and then

du plus loin que locution conjonctive

du plus loin qu'il se souvienne as far back as he can remember

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loin de locution prépositionnelle

1. [dans l'espace] a long way ou far (away) from

2. (figuré) far from

a. [endroit] far from there

b. (figuré) far from it

3. [dans le temps] a long way (away)

4. [au lieu de]

loin de m'aider far from helping me

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loin que locution conjonctive

not that

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pas loin de locution adverbiale

[presque] nearly, almost

ça ne fait pas loin de quatre ans qu'ils sont mariés they've been married nearly four years